The following story. Mother has become mentally ill and is now in the hospital for an inpatient examination. She no longer knows who I'm and has to be examined as an inpatient for 2 months or more. In addition, she constantly comes up with things like some outbursts of fear that we will all die etc. In general, my father is not doing well either, he is unemployed on Hartz4 and has to look after us 5 children, 1 is doing high school and 4 are under 6 years old. I'm the oldest and watch my family go down the creek. I don't know if I should continue with my Abitur I feel bad when I leave home for school. Tomorrow I have an English exam and now I'm screwing up in every subject. Math Physics LK I usually get one but in the last two exams I slipped on my 4 because I'm so depressed right now. I don't know who to talk to either. Friends think I don't have really close ones who could help me there. In the meantime I can't even somehow establish contact with people via chat because my cell phone and laptop are in the pawn shop. Right now I have the iPad from school that was loaned to me. I think it's bad to go to school and get yelled at that I don't have a German book, etc. Despite the fact that I can't afford it. I have to drive to school all the time because my mother got into debt at the time. I'm also not allowed to stay at home because I have to be certified. For example, I don't even know how to get back from school tomorrow because there are always inspectors on the bus in the afternoons. I also feel somehow cast out and excluded from my level 😞.
No, you will regret that later when you are denied opportunities for advancement.
Just stay tuned. Even if you need 1 year longer. Abitur opens many doors for you to apprenticeships that you would otherwise not be allowed to do.
I don't believe your story, but it doesn't matter.
Please do not look for reasons and excuses why you are having a hangover at school. Many have or have had. Pull yourself together, sit on your bum and finish your school.
Phew, that's really tough.
I urgently advise you and your father to contact the youth welfare office and ask for family help. That does not mean that your siblings will be taken away, but that they will get help to cope with everyday life.
You can also ask the health insurance company whether domestic help can be provided - this is quite possible if the mother and four small children are absent.
I understand very well that you do not want to let your father down, but HE is responsible for the children and he is currently not fulfilling his educational mandate (for whatever reason). It is absurd that you can't fulfill your school duties because your parents are in debt.
Get together, also with the youth welfare office or another advice center such as Caritas or Diakonie, and find a way to avoid having to give up school.
And please talk to your school management and describe the situation. It's really not your fault.
If your father is on Hartz 4, the job center pays for the school supplies. Anyway, you get a fixed amount every year and you can re-invoice special expenses separately. Buy your school stuff.
It's very sad what's going on in your family right now, but think about whether your parents would be happy if you drop out of school and go to work? Definitely not, Quite apart from that, you would have even less time for your siblings and would be even more time away from home.
Quite apart from that, at your age, neither your parents nor your siblings are your responsibility. I think it's great that you take care of yourself, but ultimately your father has nothing to do right now, He can take care of the little ones. You, on the other hand, are building your future. You make your parents happy and proud. Your mother too, when she's better.
Maybe you can also apply for family help, someone who will come by and help as long as your mother is in the hospital. Or ask the youth welfare office for help. Because if you now also get depressed because you are (rightly) overwhelmed with the situation, then ultimately it will not benefit anyone, not even your little siblings.
I don't know because of the fare dodging I'm actually scared my parents somehow. The custody is taken away. I actually thought about conveying this to my ladder somehow, but I'm kind of afraid of it, I don't know either. Because I actually don't know what the headmaster should do. He mustn't prefer me 🤷♂️I have to think about something
I actually thought about the family help, I'm just afraid that because of the black drive and so the custody could be withdrawn
Parents are not deprived of custody because of a high school graduate's driving in the wrong way.
Because of the neglect of four small children, it was earlier.
The point is, you can't get out of there on your own, so seek outside help. Your siblings will thank you.
Talking to my teacher may actually be an option I'll think about 🙏 thank you
Who drives that black, your father? He should also get a cheap social ticket. But custody is not withdrawn because of fare dodging. Of course I can't judge "and so".
I drive black to school 🤷♂️ it feels like almost every morning and noon I have to wait until I don't see a controller on the bus and take a bus half an hour later
In which town do you live? Are there no social passes, discounts for school tickets or something like that? I'm sorry your parents don't care, but you can google it.
Well we had to pay 12 euro per month for a monthly pass and my mother got into debt 🤷♂️
12 euro must be in there. Take a look at your finances if your parents can't see through it., I know a lot of people who are on Hartz 4 and save money every month. With 5 children in particular, your income should be good enough for a 12 Euro school ticket. Your siblings aren't at school yet.
Write down what you spend for a month and see where your money goes. For example, 12 euro are only two packs of cigarettes. Or a snack for everyone. Instead of cooking yourself. You're spending too much somewhere.
But that's actually not your problem either. You should focus on school. You may also be able to ask your school counselor or social worker for advice.
Yes, now it's 200 euro, I don't know where to pay
*How much
Your financial position is so difficult to assess from a distance.
