I wanted to ask you for advice, it's about the fact that I have terminated the friendship with my best friend (Jessy). I forgot my laptop with her, but because we're no longer friends and I don't want to see her anymore, I asked my mom if she could pick up my laptop, Jessy said that she wouldn't give it out, but that I would take it to pick me up personally because she still wants to talk to me.
BUT, I don't want to talk to her anymore and I have nothing more to say to her. Now I wonder what I can do My laptop doesn't matter that much now it's an old memento from my ex
now I'm wondering whether I should just let it stand or turn to her sister…
Don't leave the laptop there! After all, it is your property and as long as you have not given it to her, she has no right to keep it. Tell Jessy's mom that she should give it to you or talk to her.
Thanks, that's a good idea
No problem!
No. You stand it and go there in person. Please don't blame your mother or your friend's sister about your own problem.
If you go to her and she asks you in because she wants to talk to you again, you go in. Nobody conducts controversial conversations at the door. If you are inside, you first demand and insist on your laptop before their conversation begins. When she is done with her thoughts, it is your right to answer her that there's nothing more to say. With that you have shown character and not just pretending that other people will solve your problem.
All the best and good luck.
I wonder what must have happened to close off with his best friend.
Real friendships are priceless and should get through the toughest of difficulties.
If you go stubborn and block everything, you will regret it at some point.
Therefore. Just go there, pick up Lappi yourself and see what she has to say to you. You will survive.
If you consider the friendship to be completely over, then I would do the following:
I would pick up the laptop myself. It's childish to send in other people and gives the impression that you're more scared of a meeting than not in the mood for one. So tell Jessy that you come to pick up the laptop BUT you have no need or desire for a conversation. Should she come up with numbers like "first there's talk, then there's the laptop" I would make it clear to her that the laptop is your property and that she is obliged to surrender it WITHOUT linking this to any conditions.
Give her the chance that she will want to talk to you again. You would want to do it the other way round too.
You then take the notebook with you.
Something has happened that I just can't forgive her and that's why I don't want to talk to her anymore.
