Suppose you are with your partner. His ex pays at several times a year because of some (technical) problems (e.g. Laptop is too slow) and your friend jumps on it immediately and helps her.
Would that bother you?
One can also diverge on the good. Trust is also important in a relationship.
Primarily the part with "he jumps immediately" bothers me, not the basic help.
Whereby I'm basically more of a friend when you no longer have contact with your exes (unless it can't be avoided in the circle of friends). That does NOT mean that I would forbid my partner to contact me or anything else - only that I do not welcome any more "hanging out" and do not have to be happy about it (but can accept it);)
I would forbid that (if there are no children in the game).
Somehow you get the feeling that she is more important than you when he immediately jumps up and helps her. So my ex would be the last one I would go to if I had a technical problem.
I would talk to him.
So I actually help everyone immediately if they ask me for help and it is not too complex, so it is done quickly. And why are you no longer allowed to have contact with your ex? Do you have to hate each other when you part? You can still be friends, or are you not allowed to have friends besides your life partner?
