I have a bigger problem and a longer text.
My friend and I have known each other for years and have been a couple for 6+ months so I already knew his behavior with media quite well.
For a long time;
He is permanently on the console and talks with the headset with his "Internet friends" and his cell phone, he has everywhere. - Yes, even during sex… (if it does exist.) And everywhere on the laptop / tablet YouTube run by the way.
Before;
In the beginning it was also very bumpy as far as the media goes, but he had talked to me a lot for hours and even made out the box and put away the phone to just spend time with me.
To my person;
Am also a passionate gambler and talk to colleagues from time to time but I know when stop and I have no cell phone to him what he had broken out of anger but I'm honest, it does not matter to me because I'm not a social media guy but rather, enjoy my rest from all this.
The thing is, I do not know what to do. We argue a lot and when it comes to a discussion, he goes straight to the console and sits down on his headset and talks.
Even eating together does not work without his cell phone, laptop and co. And if I give him a few hints and tell him that I'm in the mood, he postpones this until later, which in the end does not make any difference.
Then I ask him if we want to play together, then it is said, "play with us" although he knows that I want to play alone with him.
I can understand it on one page, but I generally do not want to have anything to do with "internet buddies" because I've seen a lot of stupid things in the past.
Even where I write the text, I'm meanwhile to him have touched his cell phone because I often told him that it seems to him more important than me and was directly yelled…
It would not be a solution for me because I love him but I would really like to talk to him and it could be about everything main thing, he takes me and how I perceive.
As long as he does not realize that he has a problem and needs help, it does not help.
You should part. If you are lucky, this shock is healing and he will want to tackle the problem. If not, you know for sure that he does not love you anyway, and you do not need someone like that anyway.
He has to come up to it himself - there's nothing to stress in there. Do whatever you want to do and let him do it. How long that works or not you do not know. Maybe he will soon find out that you are not there at the moment but with girlfriends on the way and interested again more for you or not. That he goes to the console after stress is almost normal because he can calm down there. Of course, you do not have to live with it - there are sure to be men who do not do it to excess. But the bottom line is that it's a relationship problem and not a computer problem. If he does not want to fix that, that's his decision. Just as your decision is to join or not and if so how far. Rumstressen constantly because of console brings but nothing at all.
You do not want to break up? Then it is not a big problem.
You are his partner not his therapist. Often, the other garkein problem but just just ticking different. If he does have a problem, he has to come to it on his own before the process of change begins. As the saying goes, love alone is not enough.
In my view, you have to somehow demonstrate to him how you feel. This can either be by trying to communicate with him through the media, or, if he wants to talk to you, by texting himself, checking emails or something.
Something similar happened to me. Someone made an appointment with me more often, but then was only on the phone, every message had to be answered immediately (private messages from friends). At some point I bought an e-reader and automatically put it on the table to read as soon as it was on the phone, because I felt very stupid (I was always worried, other guests would think I was so uninteresting that he to be on the phone all the time). After a long time ER then asked why I always had this reader…
So look for your interesting job for you, go to the next, as soon as he is on the devices and also a bit, if he wants to talk to you again and hope that he notices it. It's better not to wait until he's done and then take care of him. Otherwise he will learn that you are patient and that he does not have to change anything. Sex only exists if only you two are important in the room, as long as something else (Youtube, etc.) is important, he probably can't concentrate on you, then you renounce.
