It's about the mother of my friend. He is 25 years old and she treats him like a 5 year old. Also her own saying. She is 55 years old and often talks to us like a little kid. It raises the voice quite funny and makes childish jokes. She is generally funny. When I eat sweets, for example, she comes to me and looks at me like a little child, if I give her something, instead of simply asking her to be normal as an adult, she behaves like that. She is socially funny as well. Terrified by fear, extreme prejudice against foreigners and clinging hard to her children. When she talks to strangers, she stutters and sometimes can't form meaningful sentences. If my friend is outside at 9:00 pm, she begs him to come home because she can't sleep otherwise. Their chats are also completely funny. Zig hearts and pet names. On my own friend, I also notice extremely childlike behaviors, he also talks to me extremely cheesy and high-pitched, can't articulate properly, in discussions, he can't talk, let alone assertiveness is in his name. He prefers to put up with problems instead of facing an awkward situation so that a problem can be solved. I feel that their way has had a great effect on its development. She also posts very embarrassing things on his Facebook chronicle, such as "World's Best Son," sharing pictures of cheesy love stuff for kids, congratulating his birthday like this: "häääppi burzeltag mein Sohn❤" with a cheesy video. With such kind of contributions, his chronicle is overcrowded. Have him ever schonmal addressed, he blocks and shows that he is embarrassed, but does not delete these posts. He always looks like he's hiding something. Anyway, she complains that he never does anything, is not grown-up, lazy, even though he MUST do the whole household while sitting in front of the TV and laptop all day, but do not treat him any differently. If something is not what she wants it gets really uncomfortable and I think that's why my friend has given up all the discussions because he once thought that his older sister and his mother had zero self-reflection and did not understand anything and he just did not mind more has to discuss. His sister is 37, has his own flat but is also 90% with the mom. No man, nothing. The two hate the men's world. They probably always had bad men and are somehow very bitter. She treats me dearly and likes me a lot, but some things are still weird, like when I was out with my boyfriend and we're just coming in, she says again in a childlike high voice, "Are you taking my son away?" Then we wanted to get out and overwhelmed him again with tasks. Is she normal?
The next time you write so much, then you'll put a few paragraphs in, then it'll be clearer. 😊
But the real problem…
For me, that sounds like a woman who has no luck with other people, especially probably with men, and therefore clings to their children and can't let them go.
You will not be able to change this woman.
The only one who can do anything about it is your friend. Cautiously probably does not go, so he could at most radically try to solve his mother.
But if he does not want that or does not have enough guts, then you have bad cards.
Then always the mother will come first and then you.
The question is, will you be so happy? If your friend joins in, you can at most try to avoid the woman as much as possible.
If not, then a separation is probably essential. You want to have a grown man as a partner and not one who still hangs on the skirt of his mother.
Yes, you're right, sorry, make some paragraphs next.
It's all so difficult, I have to think about everything right…
Of course, I understand, that's not easy. So fast you do not want to throw out everything and split up. You should just talk to your friend. And when you realize that he also wants to work on changing the situation, that is a step in the right direction. It would be bad if he did not see anything at all.
My words! See that too!
Just it. I could never talk to anyone about it because everyone feels it's normal. I'll definitely talk to him again, but I do not know how to start, or what to talk about… But I hope so.
It is not a simple situation, that's right! I'll write to you shortly. Maybe I have an approach.
Alright, thank you very much.
She is 55 years old and often talks to us like a little kid. It raises the voice quite funny and makes childish jokes. She is generally funny.
Hello Velocity97,
already a funny, tragic story.
Apparently, this mother has never really grown up u. Maturity leaves much to be desired. In their own way you. She does not want to believe that children become adults with their own needs, but would like to gain recognition. A wobbly, wrong attitude.
Parental home / environment are important factors in life that shape us. Your friend did not learn to prioritize your own needs. Can be gagged by mother to handle any problems. Unfortunately you will not be able to change this.
Your friend should take charge of his own life in order to free himself from this brace. Only then will he learn to shoulder his own responsibilities, responsibilities, etc.
As long as he gets stuck on mother's lap lobe u. Adaptation exercises, his future does not look rosy. He mutates to the mother's son, stands gun at foot and then leaves out all the others.
You should think well if another common path should look like this?
I'm just about to give up. Only I wonder, how should he ever learn that?
With pleasure! See PN
This question should ask your friend. Only by Abnabelung u. He learns independence.
