How do you spend time with your friend?
My friend (20) and I (19) are now 1.5 years together and always do the same. See you twice a week and almost every weekend. It always looks like we're talking a bit, then turning Netflix on and cuddling. More often, he picks up his laptop or goes to the PC to gamble, and then I'm on the phone. He does not want to talk because he has headphones while playing. On weekends we usually go to an evening to friends or to the shisha bar.
Once a month we do something bigger (trip to Cologne or so). But it all seems so… Funny and boring. Always the same. I would like to make a romantic evening with cooking, go to the zoo, walk, etc… But no matter what I propose; he does not like anything. He also has no suggestions.
I'm animal to the pointer. How do you spend your time with the partner?
Make a list of things he likes:
Bowling, partying, playtime with friends, a wellness day for two, (swimming with sauna) a Thai massage for two or a hammam visit. Have a fancy meal or if you have the opportunity you can also plan a trip. You can also try paintball. If he does not want to get out, then invite a few friends and cook something delicious. Or have you once slept in a tree house while visiting the house on your head nearby and making strange photos for your Insta account?
Here is the tree house nearby and another idea mini golf in the black light (is also not commonplace!) http://framania.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/10/Framania-Magazin-Ausgabe-Oktober-18.pdf
Have fun, you two!
You know, in every relationship, whether in love, engaged or married, one is and remains an independent person and has his own interests. In order to live well together, you have to get involved, that is, you agree, that both have something of it, or you take it into purchase because it does not bother you any further.
If you do not, or you can and one is dissatisfied, yes, then it will be difficult, because then just does not fit together properly. You are both quite young and started early with a committed relationship. This may have largely prevented you from freely developing your youth and pursuing and enjoying your own interests.
It would be good if you think well about your relationship again, if and what you may and may not change in the future. Especially at your age you have a certain idea of life and then you should judge yourself, otherwise the relationship can't work in the long term. Relationship does not mean that you just hang together and do everything together, but that you know and feel that you are someone who is understood and that is there for you when you need him.
Everything takes its time and your time should make you see much more clearly, but you have to talk to each other, because without talking, no one knows what is going on in the other. And who does not want to talk, or ignores me, who is not there for me and therefore would not be the right one for me.
So what you list: z. Cooking, walking, zoo + cinema, restaurant, ice skating, etc… That's how I spend my time with my friend. We see each other mostly at the weekend or when we both have free time. Just chill out, watch TV or listen to music we often do. But that can't be everything, so understand your problem.
Would he speak to it exactly once and tell him what you want. If he goes for it, then go home and do not contact him anymore. If he really loves you, he'll think about it, get in touch and, at best, change something. If not, then… Well, then it's sad, but after all, you deserve to be happy.
