I'll try to summarize it briefly. Have been in a relationship for 4 years, with ups and downs. But I slowly realize how impatient he is and constantly riding on problems that we can't change NOW IN THE MOMENT.
Ex: He wants a 2 room apartment and then complains that the money will only go for the high rent. He always wants the BEST of the best.sei it's cellphone, tablet or laptop (is not necessarily reprehensible now, but you should not live beyond his means)
We're both students and have a limited budget. I will also start working in the next few weeks, so that we have more money available (I'm currently doing my driving license and only getting student loans).
What else should I do? I do not get it? I seldom spend money on anything and do not complain because I know very well that we're on the right track to get out of our current financial situation…
I know students who do not even have a stove in the room, let alone a room! I miss this "gratitude" and that is very often a topic of discussion with us, otherwise we really have no problems…
Our consumption society makes many people unhappy that they do not have the things they see in others…
That seems to me to be the case with your friend…
You are more modest in your part, and content with what you have
You can't make a lot of money out of little money…
Shoemaker stick to your groin… My Ma said to me when I wanted to have as a child always what rich children got…
I learned to be happy with little / how you are happy…
Do not be annoyed by him… Stay with your course… I think that's great…
In the long run, you will win, -then he will eventually realize that he has a thrifty and happy partner at his side…
Be patient… May be, it's just a phase…
It may also be that he has things to burden him with… And then the topic of money is just welcome to argue… Find out…
That there are people of different natures, is known. Some people refrain from short-term rewards because they have wider goals, others are just the opposite. A society needs both types of people, mixed strategies are more successful and more flexible in the long run than if one were to commit to a kind of approach. You probably chose your friend for his peculiarities, as he does because his species has enriching aspects for you. I suspect that you are not happier in every way with a nerd by your side who is just like you.
After graduation, we will have more money available, but apprenticeship years are not men's years, then he should work somewhere full time, rather than study… I was 6 years ago Kaufsüchtig, so maybe I hold nothing of consumption and am so minimalistic set Thank you @ Angel1112
I can sympathize with your problem. Gratitude is the key to happiness. In other words, thankless people are not really happy, they are in the way of their own happiness.
But here I already see a T-junction with the question: Right or left?
what I would say to him in your behalf: "It's up to you, your free will, to be ungrateful and dissatisfied, and I personally prefer to be on the go with a dissatisfied person, I do not want that. "
You should note that the most beautiful love relationship can be destroyed by dissatisfaction (including constant whining). Therefore, I think that you should be there unmistakable and consistent.
So you could say to him:
"when we're together, I do not want to hear any comparisons" he has - but only "or" he's already… But only "and I would not want to hear otherwise what the money is not enough for or what is not possible."
Or, "Do you know where the town hall is?" You can complain and moan when you feel the need to talk about it - but not with me. "
And also: "You can learn gratitude - you only need goodwill"
And also: "grateful people are the best match for me" ==> food for thought
Thank you for your honest answer… You have learned from it… And got your life under control… My respect… Always be a role model for him…
You can't do more…
