Because of messy room ban?

I get a room ban from my mother when my room is messed up. Last year she did that and I was banned for a whole year, was only allowed to enter my own room when I wanted to change my clothes because my clothes were inside. I then slept in a room with my siblings and my room was empty.

About a month ago I was allowed to move back to my room after a long fight and since then I have to keep my room spotless every day. At least once a week my desk and everything clean and wipe, my bed must be made every day immediately after getting up and I must only when I go to sleep back under my blanket. There must be no object on my desk except for a few textbooks in the corner, and my wardrobe must be very tidy and nothing should be thrown into it. When a pair of pants unfolded inside, she tilts the whole cupboard over and I have to fold all my clothes and put them back in my cupboard.

Today, things like money, glasses, and glue were on my desk, and on my dresser were a few of my chains and a few of my make-up items. I'm totally ill and can't even move and therefore lying in my bed and watch series on the laptop, but she has met with my aunt and said before she leaves that I should completely clean my room until she is back. I told her I was sick and feeling very bad and not got the strength to get up, wipe the table and floor, sort everything and fold the clothes, but she said she did not care. Shortly after she left I fell asleep because I was very tired. She came home and I woke up and I remembered, I got up and arranged my things, but she shouted at me I should have done it before she came back. I cried out of desperation and said that she should feel sorry for me because I'm very ill and I'm not feeling well and falling asleep. She said that she does not care and I got out of the room, yelled at me and stopped me when I wanted to clean and said that tomorrow I will move back into the room of my siblings, because I'm still very ill today and she should not be infected.

I'm desperate. I'm the eldest of the siblings and need my privacy, which I do not have there. The room is too small for us all and we hardly have room.

Does anyone know what to do?

Sorry that I say so directly but your mother is through something. If that does not improve - Jugendamt or relatives

Yes, I have already thought about that, that can't be normal.

As I praise me very much the Bundeswehr, as there's breeding and you order uhehe, a piece of clothing is not accurately laid together, is just spintwürfeln made

Apparently she has to put through with you so drastic measures that you learn it.

However, this is already hard with the room ban. I would just take the Inet ^^

The whole thing is called new careerism. That said, some parents have today made a radical turn towards an old-fashioned hard-core style of education that will enable you to assert yourself as tough in adult life in individual competition and make a career of hell out of it. If you can't do that, YOU will feel like a failure in your education. At this fear your mother - sorry - has gone crazy and made the apartment for you to a barracks yard. With it she risks that you take a nervous or mental damage.

There was a man named Schreber who invented the allotments. This man has ruined his children this way. However, his education was far more radical, if I remember correctly.

If it gets unbearable, you can show this text to your mother. That would help her too.

Otherwise: youth welfare office.

Thank you for your help.

Thanks for the answer.

Yes, you really want to, coconut. It's good to UNDERSTAND your mother. That creates a first liberation in the head. Based on this you can decide better than me how you should proceed. Of course, you can also try to sensitively explain to your mother her bad mistake. But I'm really in favor of showing her this text here. She has it in writing and has time to "chew through" in peace.

I'll do it that way, thank you.

Coconut, please write to me privately. "Friendship request".