I will soon be starting an apprenticeship with my twin sister. We actually see it as a great advantage. We saw and used it in preparation for the secondary school exams.
We work the same, are equally ambitious and know that we can rely on each other's word… Actually.
We're still free now, but both have the feeling that we have to prepare now, although a couple of future colleagues have already told us that we can't do anything, that we can at best teach ourselves the wrong way and that everything important is conveyed there. Then I "forced" myself to do nothing. We have probably already agreed five times that if we do look at something we will do it together. Or send each other links when you find an informative page. I have always done this up to now, but she seems to be grateful for my help and to keep her things to herself. She sits alone in her room all the time and then says that she would only watch series on the iPad, sits on the laptop and writes down learning methods, etc.
To do this, she always turns her cell phone away when I come near her and sits in the attic to look for a piece of paper in the old school stuff, the content of which then "doesn't matter".
My mother says that this is simply her way of dealing with the fear of the unknown. She also thinks that this will not give her any advantage and at most wasted the time that she now has free and does not enjoy.
I really tell her everything I know and tell her honestly when I read something. I have absolutely no desire for the training to be the same. I help her and she helps me and gladly accepts my help.
It took me a long time to realize that this is the last time I've been free for so long and I should just enjoy it. It is not for nothing that they say that there's nothing to learn. I wanted to enjoy the last time now. But then she puts me under total pressure with her actions.
And then I also think about it: If she does that now, then it will definitely not be any different in the training.
What do you think? What should I do?
(I've talked to her about it soo often and every time I think "now she's going to stop" but it always goes on. Talking doesn't work. She would never admit that she's secretly doing something)
It is exemplary if you try to start an apprenticeship with previous knowledge. But still the goal of the training is that you learn it. If you can do it beforehand, the training is also pointless. Therefore: Don't worry and enjoy your free time. And let your sister do it. I never had a twin, but I know that sometimes people have to do things alone. Let her do it, why should she aim to be better than her sister? And even if she does, she'll quickly learn that blood is still thicker than water.
Even if you do the same training, the boss alone will separate you so that you can be kept apart! Sometimes it sounds like you cheated in the shoe because you are twins!
There's nothing that you can do except maybe formulas and fractions and practice 3 sentences but you can't do that in a team!
Even twins are not always equally good at all or always want to be the other's appendage!
It would even have been best to be in 2 different companies!
Maybe you should consciously try to disconnect yourself.
Clearly do something different… What she does is not good and pointless…
So tell yourself over and over again that you are enjoying the time now!
It sounds like the two of you are really very similar and maybe that's the problem. Maybe she tries to distance herself from you through all this learning and just learning because she has the feeling that she does not have an "own" identity. Do you understand what i mean?
Anyway, let them learn. Don't take it personally that she does it alone and instead do something alone. And enjoy the free time. You won't have that much again anytime soon. You learned at school what you need to know at the beginning of your training. You will learn what you need to know at the end of your training.
Even if you are twins, you are individuals.
Even if you always formed a team during your school days. Even if you have always agreed in all situations in life and have only done other things together…
So it is quite natural that everyone, for himself, will at some point reach a point in life where you can decide and act independently. Decide for yourself.
It is completely normal. No matter if you are a twin or not.
It doesn't matter whether you deal with the subject before the start of your training or not. Whether you get the first information via videos, documentations, books, subject-related treatises, experience reports - or whether you simply wait until the training begins.
Ultimately, one way or another you are at the beginning as soon as it starts.
It does not matter whether you are aiming for an educator training, a nursing training, training in retail, training in animal care. All pure theory at the beginning does not prepare you. Instead, you learn step by step during the training what it is all about.
But anyway. You "can" deal with it in advance or leave it… That is up to you as an individual.
