My little brother (8 years old) insulted my mother and that's why she smashed his cell phone on the floor in front of his eyes and his cell phone broke, but this was not the first time that my mother had punished him Three years ago, my brother used a fork to dig hollows into the dining table and then my mother used a fork to scratch the paintwork on his bike, but today my brother didn't break anything.
But the thing is that these are not isolated cases in which my brother insults / harasses other people, treats them disrespectfully, etc. For years he has simply been unable to behave and has already broken several things:
-Once he broke the display of my mother's iPad with a belt.
- Then he played around with the stove and there was a laptop on the stove, so the burning stove melted the battery of the laptop, which means that the laptop must always be connected to the charge in order to be able to use it
- He is now so aggressive that he has to go to therapy.
- His behavior is so bad that if he continues to do so in the future, he will
Jail could end up
So he has become the problem child in our family.
The thing is that I'm not only worried about my brother, but also about my mother, because my parents have been divorced for a few months and then it was decided in court where my younger siblings would live. It was decided that both of them would live with my mother in the same way that I did, and the court noted that both parents were too inconsistent and that both should change this.
My mother did this too, but what she did today just didn't work. However, I do not want to tell my mother that she went too far because she believes that as a mother she can do anything and by the way, I'm still 17 years old.
Actually, my mother is really nice and she also gives me all the freedoms that exist, but her brother's antisocial behavior is very difficult for her.
Can you help me because you shouldn't punish your children like that.
I think his mother's behavior is unacceptable Reaction is completely exaggerated, apparently she is overwhelmed with her upbringing because I would advise you to come to the youth welfare office and maybe consult a family therapist or something like that because your mother shouldn't resist because I see this very critically he is still a child but she is a grown woman
Your mother doesn't react like a mother, but like a child.
It's a shame, but she probably doesn't know better.
If this brother insults everyone and breaks things, why shouldn't his mother break his cell phone? It deserves it! Maybe his mother should answer his EVERY bad deed with the same coin, then he realizes that something is wrong! I honestly don't believe in "therapy". Soothing tablets can maybe mess him up a lot in later life, like me. I think depriving a child of his energy is a crime, morally speaking, even if the child uses his energy destructively out of inexperience.
Youth welfare office in no case. Otherwise, this brother risks landing in a home. And I mean it.
Why? How should she react to it? Pet him for doing evil? Or maybe hand him over in a slap so as not to ruin his cell phone?!
Well listen, breaking something because the other one broke something is absolutely childish. In a proper upbringing there are consequences for the child, but not that.
Why childish? A cell phone is an important, expensive thing. If someone had smashed my cell phone, I would find it anything but childish!
Read the text again: The child insulted the mother, and then she broke her cell phone. It is extremely childish!
And how would you have done it?
Ok, everyone's opinion…
I would have taken the cell phone away from him for a while but not destroyed it.
You are in an incredibly difficult situation.
Perhaps this is an opportunity for you to influence your brother.
The aspect of closeness and distance with praise and criticism
I saw it for the first time in a video today.
As an objective observer, you may be able to influence and strengthen your brother and explain with understanding what happens when he does
(successful) buttons pressed on your mother.
The best thing would be, you could be competent
Get help, because you are not your age
Can replace father or your mother.
I have an incredibly good one at Caritas Family Counseling myself
To get support.
You need even more help to have a good impact on your mother.
A praise to you, your text suggests
that you objectively assess the situation, which shows that your maturity is much more developed than would otherwise be expected in 17 year olds.
I wish you and your family all the best and that your family learns to appreciate what they have in you.
The mother did not get the children "just like that" from the court! And when an 8-year-old child insults the mother so much, she has to learn that there are consequences. Slamming the cell phone on the floor is better than thrashing the child! The cell phone is broken. What do you expect - that your mother can endure everything tacitly? The little one should get therapeutic help - and so should your mother. After all, she just got divorced.
You shouldn't question her actions so much, just ask if you can help her.
