I passed my Abitur a year ago and let the Abenball pass. Had stress at home, the youth welfare office intervened and would have been ashamed of my family. Had to move out during high school. My mother pulled my laptop over my head and threatened to throw me out, etc. Was anorexic for a long time and had many psychiatric stays.
In retrospect, it was selfish of mine. V.a., because I did not contribute anything to the ball. But at the moment it felt right. When I meet teachers today, I'm greeted nicely by some, and maliciously grinned at by others… Do you think it was okay with me not to go there?
Of course it was okay that you didn't go. Do not regret anything that felt right at that moment!
It's just a party… You don't miss that much.
Doubt that teachers will remember and grin at you for that
Me too
Yes, it was perfectly okay not to go there.
Coping with a real life crisis is priority over a ball.
It is "snow from yesterday". The ball was and you weren't there. Nothing can be changed now.
The teachers certainly do not know in detail who was at the prom and who was not.
A ball like this not only has the function of being dressed nicely, eating nicely. My misunderstanding goes rather to your mother. Your cancellation was not entirely voluntary.
Abifeier is a ritual that ends school and brings the harvest to school for many years. You also get the opportunity to say goodbye to your classmates and teachers and to celebrate with people you know well. You deserve it after so much hard work and hard work. I don't think the teacher's grin is "malicious". You interpret that in there.
As long as you were not the victim of bullying at the level, you were simply deprived of a nice ritual to separate yourself from childhood and youth.
Of course, that doesn't erase the 12 years before or the friendships you made. Your testimony will not be released into thin air. However, you were deprived of the appreciation of your work, because that day you take a lot of "last" photos and you also take family pictures.
But what would your alternative have been like? You would have appeared there with an attachment that pulls a long face and, if necessary, misbehaves. The last impression of you would have been a lasting, sad memory for you and your friends. You don't want that. To come without an attachment would also have been a sad reminder, since you book the places in families. Almost every mother would have asked you where your mother was during the evening and they would have regretted you. You don't want that either.
In the end it was just a big party that you didn't go to. At the alumni meeting, you will still be wondering why you are not in any photo. Otherwise, almost everyone should have already finished school. They had their farewell ritual, unlike you. The whole vintage was scattered in all winds after the holidays. Even best friends parted and already, a year later, everyone has a new life.
You made your decision with your head. However, your heart lacked the official closing line. Finally, the graduation ball is taken for granted as the official end of school. You should consider replacing it. Perhaps it will help you to go to the school building and say goodbye to the building. Think again of the experiences and processes that are over. Look through a window again. If you shake the closed door, you may be able to close the chapter.
