Stress with neighbors because of children's noise. What to do?

We're parents of two lively boys (6 months and 2 years) who like to speak out loud when something does not suit them. The big one is an early riser (even on the weekend) and had a fit of rage immediately after getting up because he was not allowed to watch videos on the laptop. We limit that because otherwise the breakout comes at the latest when we close the laptop. It also overwhelms him.

In any case, our sleep-drunk neighbor came down to us with certain steps and vented his anger because the screaming woke him up. There was also the suggestion that we should go out with the Wüterich as soon as we get up and do something. And one should think of the opposite consideration, etc. Etc.

I was a bit taken by surprise because he rang the doorbell at an inconvenient moment and I was still thinking about the son, who had not yet completely calmed down. I just found out that the two-year-old was screaming, but that wasn't always the case and he was starting to work again. Which is usually the case.

In any case, I want to talk to the neighbor again afterwards to clarify the matter. We got along quite well so far, but I can already see how this becomes a permanent argument because the children are there and you can't avoid screaming in the morning.

I'm just not sure how to go about it and would therefore like to hear a few more opinions. Maybe someone has already experienced something similar?

There are many judgments that child noise is acceptable to a certain extent. But parents are always required to influence their children.

Tell your neighbor that you are fulfilling your responsibilities, but that you can't seal the mouth of a small child who does not yet understand much.

First of all, I find it very worrying that he is so dependent on the laptop and reacts so extremely. Such behavior is seen over and over again these days. For example, many parents run YouTube so that the child can sit still while eating or in general so that they are still.

You can redirect its energy to something else. Maybe something more physically active. Toys? Morning walk?

Of course, children are children and sometimes scream. But some things can be avoided ((for the morning hours).

At least that's how she attracts little tyrants!

I don't want to go into that position because I can't guarantee that the short guy will be calm. At the moment, the wrong temperature of the food is enough for him to scream. Educational counseling says it is a phase that will pass again.

Parents are obliged to have an "educational" influence on their children in order to prevent "excessive" noise.

This includes, in particular, compliance with rest periods. Easily said, but not easily implemented.

You can find more information on the topic B. Here: https://www.allrecht.de/alles-was-recht-ist/kinderlaerm-im-mietshaus/

Yes, nice for him. That doesn't help, neither does him. For some choleric people, the phase lasts a lifetime. Makes a clear announcement when it has to be quiet. Until 8:00 in the morning. But also because of the baby. The neighbor is more understanding when you say it gets loud because you want to educate him. As if you said the screaming is a result of the failed education. Painting, toy cars, possibly an audio book on an mp3 player must also work.

How about if you start to deal with your children?

A two year old gets up early, yes. Then there's breakfast, then you sit down with him, build building blocks, Lego Duplo, look at picture books together (!) Etc.

At this age, media consumption is not necessary, and it is not beneficial either, as you yourself can see.

A toddler who has a fit of rage because he is not allowed to watch videos on his laptop… I just don't know whether to laugh or cry.

I think this is how I will do it. I can expect some acceptance from the neighbors, I think. We already do everything so that the children are fine and you don't hear them that often.

In this case, it is not about the children doing well, but about influencing them in terms of volume.

Was after 6 o'clock. And now?

"We limit that"

Yes, you should limit it to "zero". You see for yourself that the child can't process it.