I feel that my mother does not care about how I feel. I'm 15, I'm still attending school and I'm in 10th grade. I also have 2 smaller brothers (7 and 13).
Here's an example:
I'm often very poor in the morning and stomach ache sometimes I have and that is just my mom totally does not matter. From her then usually comes as a saying like: "You're doing anyway anyway." or "Stop kidding me.". And then she just sends me to school. Whenever I want to stay home, she usually says, "Stop kidding me, you're still going to school!". Whenever I keep trying to make her realize that I'm really sick, she usually says that my phone and laptop will be gone for half a year if I stay home.
According to my mother, I never help her anywhere and my brother (13) seems to be getting everything right. That's why I'm so sad and can't go on.
Whenever I want to talk to my mother, she often ignores me too.
My brother (13) got pocket money (20 EUR) last month and I did not get any pocket money (30 EUR) because I did not seem to have done something she told me. And also for this month my brother got pocket money and of course I did not.
I do not know how to explain it all best, but tried as best I could.
I'm m / 14 myself and know that pretty well. Your mother is just a human, ask your aunt / uncle / grandmother, etc. If earlier. Something was already us.w! Talk to her about a few topics, compliment her. In an emergency, the youth welfare office will help you if you feel pressured or harassed. LG
As far as I know, that was not the case in the past. My mother just does not care how I feel lately.
Does she have a lot of stress? Do you receive Hartz IV or do you have a job? Has your father moved away?
I can understand you. If you are really feeling unwell, then suggest that your mother go to the doctor. This will make her realize that you are serious and that you are really feeling unwell. The doctor will be able to say best what you are missing.
What are you doing in the household? What is your brother doing? Maybe you could sit down and split up the tasks.
Sit down with your mother and tell her that you feel unfairly treated and it makes you sad. Because of the pocket money: Something is unfair. Say it. If you do not dare to talk to your mom personally then maybe you can also write her a letter.
What about your dad?
All the best!
The question arises for me, do you have the same fathers?
My son had a school friend who was also like that, no matter what, he was always the scapegoat, got room arrest, was supervised by the siblings, what he does and where he goes, that was then reported to the father brühwarm. The mother did not intervene either, just sat and read a book, while the father folded it, sometimes hit it, but I do not do that much later. I went to the youth office after his father threw him out of the apartment at the age of 14. In a conversation between two of the youth welfare office, the mother, the boy and me, I literally verar… The boy answered the questions of the employee as if memorized, which he later confirmed to me.
In any case, he then came to a boarding school, he had to get out of his FAmiie, so he came to rest. He slept at boarding school, but went on to his normal school.
From this experience, with even more incidents, I advise you only, go in the school to the psychologist, or a teacher of trust. Talk to them, because it may be your mother, for example. Do not scratch out your pocket money just because you just like it, but it could cut it short, but not less than your brother gets. Also she must take you neither PC nor mobile phone on such a long time away. PC not even, since you need him for the school, the phone maybe for two weeks, because that also needs a child today to communicate.
Regarding the appointments at the Terapeuten, I think you are already 16 or just before, you can make these out yourself and insist that your mother is not allowed to cancel them, it's up to you. You have more rights than your mother knows, she can't treat you like an old rag.
How you were advised to talk to her, that you can bend, that does not matter, she will continue to not listen to you, but you have already made the experience yourself. You can only get help from outside, your family and your brothers, can't and will not help you, your 13 year old brother certainly not, why should he give up his prince position because of you?
How your youth office works, I can't say, it would be worth a try. Do not wait, act, or you will be worse off. You deserve to be treated fairly, because it goes even further, education / school, I do not know what you have planned.
Unfortunately, I could help my son's friend only partially, but I hope that I could give you some encouragement and give some tips, if you still need further help, I'm at your disposal.
You can do it
