My mother has depression. She no longer works and is at home all day. She just sits in front of the laptop all day. The apartment is messy and she rarely cooks food. How should I handle it? It's been so long she just can't get everything in order and postpones everything. I can't throw the whole household on my own. What should I do? I can't call the youth welfare office. I'm 15 / w
But you can call the youth welfare office and you should do the same.
there are various offers of help
When I was 15 I had to throw the whole household by myself. My mum has no depression, but suffers from a chronic reluctance combined with an urge to spend every day with the friend. It's actually quite simple and sometimes really funny.
You have to do laundry if necessary (i.e. When you want clean clothes), cooking is really easy (e.g. Pasta with pesto, you can eat what you want) and clean once a week, take a day off ( e.g. Saturday, for a few hours with a fixed list is best), just suck from time to time, but that's in your hands when you want to do it, etc.
As for shopping, please just go with your mom or give yourself some money, then plan your meal, write a shopping list and go shopping. My mom never cooked, we always had ready dishes, but the nice thing is I can cook now and have no problems when I move out. Most of my friends would sink into chaos and starve to death if they moved out now.
I'm sorry your mother is doing so bad, is she at least in therapy? That would be very helpful, you can also encourage your mother to cook with you or go out. You are definitely doing well. You can also ask your father / grandparents or other family members for help, then they will come over and help you. All the best
It would be best if you were looking for help. Maybe already at the youth welfare office. But why can't you call the youth welfare office?
Maybe you have a school social worker at your school to talk to and develop a plan for. If not, you can also call the telephone counseling service or the number against grief. With the number against grief you can also make an e-mail consultation if you can't or do not want to call. They can certainly give you a few tips and then help you and your mother a little. You could also use the structure to help.
Your words come to me as if you take the view that her mother is lazy and not sick.
You certainly don't think her mother would love to cook, clean, shop (whatever) if she were healthy again.
Your answer will save me any comment, except for the fact that you have no idea about depression and its symptoms!
Doesn't mean that your daughter has to suffer from it
Then make suggestions what the mother can and should do about her illness!
Therapy instead of just crouching and letting her daughter work.
Nothing will happen of its own accord unless it gets worse
Then get her a therapy place with an average waiting time of about 12 months.
Right! What do you think she should do if her mother suffers from a lack of drive?
Would not like to interfere with something private but can give her advice because she asked…
What do you ask them to do?
Call the youth welfare office.
That is exactly what they are there for
You should actually know
Does your advice look like that you advise her that the mother should move the ***, otherwise the "bad" youth welfare office comes?
Great and thoughtful advice!
Thank you ^^
But if you find it so helpful and well thought out, you can simply click on the "Helpful" button because it is there 😉
Thank you for your answer. I didn't know that they also have an email consultation. Because I would be very reluctant to call.
Do you really want me to press the "not helpful" button?
My answer was ironic, because your "advice" has nothing to do with reality.
First of all, find out what effects depression has, what symptoms are involved, and rethink your opinion and, above all, the type of what you say. All "not helpful"!
With pleasure! Yes I understand. But the e-mail advice is really helpful, I think. And if you have a consultant with whom you can't cope, you can simply change them.
And if you are physically healthy, are you completely healthy? Does this mean that mental illnesses do not exist? The fact that she is suffering from depression is reason enough! You have no idea what it can mean when you have a serious mental illness! Maybe you will inform yourself next time before you make such an unqualified comment! What do you think why 9,000 people kill themselves every year in Germany alone for depression? Because they are so happy?! Full of energy and joie de vivre?!
Mimimi is not annoying
Hopefully you will get sick like this!
As a professional in this area, you know that such statements can also lead to depression and, as you said yourself, many people die with this disease.
And you wish someone like that? Pathetic imo
I'm not a wannabe professional
Every criticism bounces off you, so it can hardly lead to a mental illness. No one else becomes depressed by a comment
I don't wish anybody
No one else becomes depressed by a comment
One of the stupidest statements I've ever seen. As a wannabe professional, you have to know that cyberbullying is one of the most famous cases where you can get depression.
Under cyberbullying or
Cyberbullying is understood to mean insulting, threatening, exposing or harassing people using communication media, e.g. Via smartphones, emails, websites, forums, chats and communities.
You feel bullied Then you shouldn't hand out if you can't take it. If you describe people who are suffering from depression as too lazy to get their asses up, you should also tolerate the echo. Conversation ended.
May I ask where I distributed? She asked for advice and got one from me.
And would you be so nice and quote my statement when I meant it
If you describe people who are suffering from depression as too lazy to get their asses up
Because I can't remember it sweet
