My girlfriend broke up with me, it was very painful for me since we were together for 5 years. I still have laptop, iPad, headphones and some clothes in her flat. I can't get it, it would be too much for a postal package. I've been feeling very bad for the last month and I never want to go back to her apartment and I do not want to see her either. Especially since I now know that she had cheated on me and for the separation told me quite different reasons. Should I ask her if she could bring that to me and put it in front of the door? Or is that stupid?
Let it be sent to you by mail or stand your husband and cross there personally and pull it through.
It is not less (I use the term you have chosen) stupid than refuse to show up there for the last time (with a mutually agreed date) to pack / take the things.
Choose an alternative: Inform a common friend, or a family member that knows your ex… This person should contact your ex as soon as possible to arrange a pickup for the things. Then that person goes or drives there, picks up your things, brings them to you. Finished.
I still have laptop, iPad, headphones and some clothes in her flat
That's not too much to send by mail. She can get a moving box, pack it up and give it to you for about 18 euro. The costs you take on takeover. Or you ask a family member, a friend, acquaintances, etc. To pick up the package at her. For this you make on Whatsapp a pickup from where it is synonymous only to the appointment, done.
It would be best of course you would go by yourself, with an upright posture and laugh her in the face and be friendly. She would probably least expect that. She should see that you are well and do not come here like a pile of misery.
Thank you @ Ostsee1982, but unfortunately I'm really a small group of misery… I think she is too stupid for a package, she would forget to pad and at the end of the equipment would be useless. She was never very careful with such things.
