Assisted living at 15?

I'm currently 15 years old and am in the 10th grade of a high school.

I have had big problems with my mother (single parent) for a really long time. Before, the last time about 4 years ago, she hit me too, but not anymore. We're in a constant fight and every time I come home I immediately feel bad.

We've tried to talk about this before, but we've never seen any improvement. She wants me to go to boarding school or assisted living. Unfortunately there are no suitable boarding schools in the area and I don't want to lose my friends.

But can I even go into assisted living when I'm 15? How about the youth welfare office, my mother doesn't want to include the Eigl at all, but that's impossible, isn't it?

And how is that regulated in assisted living with the mobile phone, laptop or when you have to be back in the evening?

If it's that bad, go to the youth welfare office. They are there for you. A. Helping young people. They have the contacts and experience.

Without knowing you, but it sounds like you are the problem (child), the problem is not with your mother.

And yes, you probably won't get any further without youth welfare office.

All the best to you!

If your mother can afford to move out, then she doesn't need the youth welfare office. Then she can simply rent an apartment for you and provide you with a living, anything is allowed.

However, I'm afraid she can't. So you only have to go to the youth welfare office. And the office doesn't just finance such an out-of-home placement. They will first try to install a family aid with you so that you can learn to get along with each other. Only when that is a mess, then other measures come into question.

You can only move into individually assisted living from the age of 16. But you can move into a living group at any age.

That is possible. But the youth welfare office has a say in that.

There you can also inquire about family help.

The same rules apply to assisted living as to your home. You must have some.

Be sure that YES will not accommodate you in assisted living at your or your mother's request.

Because assisted living is only paid for by YES (taxpayers) if (D) external accommodation is mandatory. Because this type of accommodation runs into the tens of thousands per year. And such places are limited.

Out-of-home care is imperative… Would mean that you are at risk of demonstrably physical and / or psychological damage in your mother's household.

Besides… What about your father?

So actually she doesn't want to let me live all alone, precisely because she knows that I would definitely be able to do it. She says then I'll be fine and she doesn't want that.

How do I contact the youth welfare office and should I mention that with the beating? By the way, she denies that and she can be very convincing… I'm afraid that she will portray me as crazy and that everyone will only believe her

If you were beaten 4 years ago and no longer today, then that is not relevant today.

You can contact the youth welfare office by phone, email or simply go there.

My father has the same physical illness, but so advanced that he is in a wheelchair. Followed by trauma and a number of other mental illnesses, he is barely able to take care of himself… Unfortunately. However, he is aware of my situation and stands behind me. He knows how bad my mother can be and how much she makes you mentally ill. That was the reason for the breakup at the time and she was the reason why he is worse.

But they are not a wish fulfillment association. WEder for the children nor for the parents.