I'm 19 and still live with my parents. Basically, I get on well with my parents, but there's one thing that is extremely freaking me out. My mother is extremely curious and always has to know everything. When I make a phone call (which I don't often do), she asks me and "has to" give her an account of it. If I ever want to go out, I will completely listen to her about it. You can't even do anything on the laptop without saying anything without asking me what I want to do there. She sniffs around in my files on the computer and keeps me going about it when I get home 5 minutes later, although I told her that it would be a little later and she also roughly knew where I was. Sometimes she even got a secret account statement from me to know what was going down on my account, even though she knew it. I know she's just worried, but it's extremely annoying. I've often told her well, but nothing has changed. I love her very much, but that really annoys me.
Sounds like a strong control freak. Would move out as soon as possible, because talking will probably not help much. Trz times try to address them.
Password protection on the laptop
Carry your wallet with you.
Ignore when she asks you again
Move out
You are 19… Find your own apartment and move out?! Problem solved!
So! You are 19, i.e. You no longer have to give your parents an account, this can be avoided with the account statement. But also tell her clearly that you do not want this and that you want and have to make your own experiences. If everything doesn't work out, the best way is to move out, either with your partner or with Boyfriend and / or other friends in a shared apartment.
But be glad that your parents or your mom is not worried, you will remain their child even if you are 45 and have children yourself, if it were different, you should worry whether you are not adopted * kidding *.
Many say that you should move out, but it doesn't sound too bad…
Sit down with her once and ask her seriously WHY she wants to know everything: make sure you have a calm NOT aggressive but rather curious tone, I mean you are interested too, right? Afterwards you can try out whether it would be okay for you to trust yourself step by step
