Me and my boyfriend have been living together for almost a year. When we argue it can get tangible. Today we fought again because I didn't want him to gamble right after getting up. Our apartment is dirty and general. Can he help me in the apartment, which I don't ask very often. Because he goes to work and I'm home right now. I get on his nerves and have not left him alone. Because I said he should do something other than gamble. That went about 5 minutes. Then he punched me and pressed me on the bed and asked if ju was good. To which I did not give a straight answer and he hit me on the thigh with his fist. It didn't hurt in itself, but the situation itself did. I lay on the bed and cried whereupon he went for a smoke and then sat down at the laptop and gambled. I tried to find a clarifying conversation whereupon I said out of desperation that I would call my mom and describe everything to her and leave. Since I can no longer talk to my friends, because they all don't like him and directly say I should break up. He then said that I should piss off now and that it was kindergarten because we "once" beeft each other. I'm just so desperate and don't know what to do. I can't talk to anyone who is neutral and who gives me really good tips. My mum would be the last solution but everyone knows for sure what a mother would say in the situation.
I ask for advice.
You have to get out of there urgently. The best thing to do is to call your mom and tell her everything and ask her if you could see her as a temporary measure. Then you make a few friends and get your things out of the apartment. The sooner the better. Because the situation can only get worse. The more he notices that he can get away with his flogging and that no limits are set, the more he will allow himself to do so. Simply because he can. Because you allow it.
You made a threat that he didn't respond to.
Basically, you have no choice but to call your mum and leave.
If you don't, you will become implausible.
I'll leave the rest of it uncommented. You have to know for yourself whether you want to treat each other like that.
Such situations after a relatively short period of being together do not imply an improvement in the situation - if a certain limit is exceeded, the situation often worsens.
You are sure to find a relationship in which raising your hand is taboo towards the woman.
Why don't you listen to your friends when they are all telling you to break up? Wouldn't it be a big coincidence if all of your friends suddenly advise the same step for no reason?
With this guy by your side, you'll end up as a lonely house slave for a tyrannical man. At some point you will be banned from contact with your family if their shoes are not freshly cleaned.
Do you want it?
Well, that wouldn't matter to me, no matter how good the guy might look.
And you think your friends are wrong? Why don't you listen to your friends. What do you hope to have a future with him?
to lie beaten in the hospital at some point because he didn't want to clean up his socks? Rip the line before it's too late for you.
